Facing Separation or Divorce

The end of a relationship can take a heavy toll. The future that you had imagined for yourself is suddenly not there anymore and it can feel like really hard work to put something new in its place.
Both partners can be left feeling disorientated and out of tune. A few take it in their stride but most will feel at some point any of:

   How NLP can Help

NLP is all about how the words and pictures we make in our heads determine how we feel about a situation or person, present, past or future. This basic proposition has lead to a large number of NLP techniques for emotional healing and future orientation.

My approach is part coaching – looking to the future and helping you to develop a brighter more appealing vision of where you want to go next – and part therapy – letting go of the hurts of the past so that you can live your life fully in the present.

NLP is not about talking things over in detail which can feel like dragging it all up again and focusing on the negative. Rather it is using tools and techniques, a bit like hypnotherapy, for touching lightly on the past and then letting it go.

             
• Loss
• Grief
• Anger
• Desire for Revenge
• Bewilderment
• Lack of Control
• Exhaustion


If there are children involved then the picture becomes even more complex. In most circumstances, an ongoing relationship with your child’s other parent is important for their happiness but not necessarily easy for you.
So let me help you to decide what you want next and to find happiness again.
                   
Divorce
If your separation does lead to divorce then there are now alternatives to the old adversarial approach.

Mediation One neutral professional aims to help both parties come to a mutually acceptable agreement, hopefully without recourse to the lengthy and highly expensive court process.
Collaborative Law has the same aim but each party has their own legal representative.

Both approaches usually involve meeting and resolving issues face to face, rather than by letter. But sometimes hurt and anger can get in the way. This is where NLP can really help the process to go smoothly and reach a satisfactory outcome. Meeting face-to-face and dealing with your ex-partner fairly is much easier if you have let go of some of the old hurts and found a more balanced emotional place to work from.

Both Mediation and Collaborative Law aim to save time and money.  Because they emphasize dealing with each other in a civilized way and reaching fair agreements they save on emotional expense as well.
Having a clear idea of where you are going and what matters to you will save on false starts, changes in direction and ultimately legal fees plus giving you a sense of being in control.